The dilemma remains

What do you do when realize that someone about whom you deeply care is heading towards self-destruction? You also realize that they continue to head towards self-destruction despite your best efforts to stop them.

When you really love someone or care about them deeply, there are instances when you might not support their thoughts and actions. At those times you might be really sure that your near and dear ones are about to get into deep trouble with their actions, but there is little you can do about it. Things further get worse when other people around you also don’t support you.

Have you ever encountered such a situation?

What do you do in such situations?

Would you let the person whom you love head towards self-destruction or would you take control of the situation despite all odds?

My answer: I would choose the latter. However to go against the whole world just for the sake of the person whom you trust or love the most, you need to have complete faith on the other person and his/her relationship with you.

Faith means taking the first step even when you cannot see the stairs  

Who is controlling your mind?

In continuation with my previous post 

Can somebody else/something else control your thoughts? The female protagonist in my forthcoming novel feels that her mind and thoughts are being controlled by an external agency. What could that external agency be?

• Could it be a supernatural power (God, demons, spirits or some kind of magic)?
• Could it be extraterrestrial life? 
• Does extraterrestrial life exist in reality? Even though humans have always speculated the occurrence of ET, till date there has been no direct evidence regarding its occurrence.
•  If no one has ever seen aliens, how can the female protagonist in my novel see them so clearly and vividly describe their exact appearance too?
• Why is it that only she can see them and no one else can?

·        Okay, even if one believes that the aliens do exist, why would they come to earth, just to control thoughts of only a single person? Would they be able to survive in the earth’s environment? How will they communicate? Would they be able to understand our language?

·        There are numerous such questions which may come in one’s mind.

  

                                      If aliens do exist, do they look like this? 

To be honest if a third person whom I am not close to tells me that his/her thoughts are being controlled by someone/something else; I would not believe them and may not even give this a second thought. However, if someone close to me, someone whom I care about and I deeply trust mentions the same thing, I probably would try to convince them once that nothing like this exists. However, if still they keep persisting about the same, I might get deeply concerned. That does not imply that I would start believing in the existence of supernatural power or the aliens. I do strongly believe in The Almighty, but not all in the existence of demons, spirits or any kind of magic. I might start believing in the existence of extraterrestrial life, if someday scientists are able to present some concrete evidence. Till that time how should a person react to such a situation?

What would you do, if faced with a similar dilemma?

what's in a name?

The above-picture illustrates the exact type of woman who would be the protagonist of my forthcoming book, “The Turbulent Mind".

How important are the names of the main characters in a novel? The story in my forthcoming novel, the turbulent mind” is focussed around a woman.

What do you think should be her name?

Should it be something common such as Kate, Mary, Susan or Ann

Or should it be something unique such as Jaimee, Casie, Kaity, or Shyla

Or should it be something something entirely different, something which you can contemplate

I think I would like to go with either Casie or Jaimee.

What would you suggest?

Controlling the turbulence

It is important for one’s mind to be free of all turbulence to be able to think properly. The person himself/herself can take steps to negate turbulent thoughts. Some such steps include:

·        Creating a vacuum: Taking out one’s turbulent thoughts and putting them in one corner to create an empty space. The created vacuum would suck in positive thoughts.

·        Replacement: Replacing the negative thoughts with positive ones

·        Nullifying: Erasing the negative thoughts from one’s mind.

Taking any of these steps may prove difficult because in most cases the person might be unaware of their turbulent thoughts. Also initiations of any of these steps require a great degree of self-control. In these cases, the family and friends play an important role in helping the person get rid of his negative thought process.   All this requires a great deal of patience and perseverance. 

Turbulent mind: a cause of stress

It is important for everybody to control the turbulent thoughts in their mind, because as previously mentioned our lives are governed entirely by the thoughts going on in our minds. Turbulent mind can be a significant cause of stress to the persons themselves as well as those around them. Not only does the stress result in psychological distress, it can also result in several medical disorders such as hypertension, heart diseases, gastric ulcerations, etc. Meditation is an excellent method for distressing and removing turbulent thoughts from one’s mind.

What kind of turbulent thoughts have you ever encountered? What steps do you take to get rid of them?

Balancing one's life

Best way of calming turbulent mind is to maintain a balance not only in one’s mind, but also in one’s life. The only way to control the violent waves creating ripples lies in the hands of the person himself or herself. My next book illustrates how the female protagonist controls the turbulent thoughts arising in her mind by taking control of her mind and balancing her life and thoughts.

Can somebody else/ something else control your thoughts?

Is it possible that our actions are being controlled by someone else, or something else. Have you ever felt that whatever actions you are doing are being controlled by an external body / agency? Sometimes we ourselves are not sure why we are doing a particular task or saying a particular thing, it appears that we are just a machine. Somebody else has a control over us and is putting actions and thoughts in our mind and words in our mouth.

This question has come in my mind because this is how I am contemplating the storyline of my next novel  which I presently intend to title as "the turbulent mind". The female protagonist feels that her mind and thoughts are being controlled by an external agency.

Any comments about the story line? Do you like it or not or do ýou find the idea ridiculous?

This has sometimes happened with me when I have said something, but later realised that this was not something which I had been thinking about or what I wanted to say. 

Has anyone ever felt similarly?