Life is about the choices we make

Life lies between B and D i.e. birth and death. In between B and D lies C, which stands for choice. Life is therefore all about the choices we make. These choices define us, our character, and our worth and impact our lives. The hard thing, however, is to live with these choices. These various choices are described below:

Choice of happiness versus sadness: Only you can decide if you want to be happy or not.

Choice of forgiveness versus ruthlessness

Choice of positive versus negative

Choice of aggressive versus peaceful

Choice of Greed versus generosity

Resilience is a choice

Just as happiness is a choice, resilience is also a choice. Resilience helps one prepare for disruptions in life, and adapt and grow in the face of adversity and setbacks. It will also help one recover from shocks and stresses in life. There is no human being in this world that has not come across an adversity at some point of his/her life. It is easy to give up in face of the circumstances. However, what make a person successful is never to give up, no matter what life presents to him/her. 

Happiness increases on sharing

                                                                                                                       Gautam Buddha

Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle and the life of that candle does not shorten. Similarly happiness never decreases on being shared.  In fact, happiness is the only thing which multiples several folds on being shared. By being happy you tend to make people surrounding you happy as well. Being happy certainly does not imply that one’s life is perfect. It simply means that they have understood the true meaning of life and agreed to look beyond its imperfections. The best way to be happy is not to dwell in the past, not to dream of future, but to concentrate on the present moment and by appreciating what ever you have, even if it appears to be little. Happiness never comes to those people who do not appreciate whatever they have.

Smile is a curve which sets everything straight

A smile is the most beautiful free creation of the God which is bound to make almost everything alright again. Smiling across tough situations helps you explore positivity in life. It can take care of numerous tears and sorrows. Sometimes life gives you no choice but to face your fears with a smile. One thing is sure; a smile would always make you emerge as a winner in life. It does make things easier, it just make you stronger. 

Happiness is a choice, not a result

Nothing or nobody in this world can give you happiness unless you yourself choose to be happy. The happiness can only come from within and you need to yourself decide what you want and whether you want to be happy or not. In fact, the happiest people may not be the richest or have everything they want, they just manage to make the best of everything that they have. 

Life is a delicious ambiguity

“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I have learnt, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what is going to happen next. It is a delicious ambiguity.”

−Gilda Radner

As a child, the most fairy tales I read had a king, queen and a bad person. The hero and heroine usually managed to get rid of the bad person and then they lived happily ever after. However, life is not like that. It may be a continuous struggle or a proportional mix of ups and downs. If you want something, you may have to fight for it and still you may not be able to get it. Life is about not knowing what is going to come next and dealing with it. 

When life appears out of control

If you try to hold the flow of water with your hands, it will break off from your hands and find its own way. It you let it flow, it shall find its own path, sometimes even by craving out the stones on its way which try and obstruct its flow.

Life is similar to the flow of water.….

Life is full of both ups and downs. When life seems out of control, all looks lost and there appears to be no way out, just watch patiently and let life flow like water. In most of the circumstances life would sculpt out its own course. Don’t resist the series of natural and spontaneous changes which the life presents to you. Before you have actually realized, the life would have carved its own path.   

love is blind

"Love is blind because my mother started loving me before seeing my face." 

Love is a beautiful feeling, but love is often blind. We might adorn our love on a person who does not deserve our love at all. Loving such people would only emanate much pain and sufferings. Some people don’t deserve our love and bestowing such feeling on them may in fact result in back-stabbing and hatred from their side.

Have you come across a situation in any relationship which has led you to believe that the love is blind?